Who Agreed to the Rules?

Ever hear a parent tell their kids “life isn’t fair” when a child complains her sib’s cookie is bigger?  I do. I was one of those parents.  I know…I know…What was I thinking?  

Don’t ever think your kids aren’t listening.   I overhead my four-year old tell her bigger sister that life isn’t fair after she complained about a game they were playing. Out of the mouths of babes.  What was I teaching my kids? 

It’s not that life is unfair.  Our broken ideas of what fairness can look like is what needs to change.  Who made up the rules?  Who agreed to those rules? Are the rules so set in stone they can’t change?  I would argue that fighting for fairness – for rules that serve the collective – are one of today’s most critical moral challenges.  

I’ve spent my career in the social sector, working for equal access and social justice.  Social justice is built on the premise that leveling the playing field – creating fairness and equity - is a moral imperative. And if you accept this premise, then how are you compelled to act?  You must do something.

I love a quote from Dr. Seuss in his book The Lorax.  

“Unless someone like you cares a whole, awful lot, 

nothing is going to get better.  

It’s not.”

So, I choose to care. I choose to care alongside all of you who work in this optimistic and unrelenting social sector, whether as a staff member, a board member, or a volunteer.  For all those people we serve who live life with grace and welcome us in with dignity, I say thank you.  Thank you for being my teachers.  

I join my colleagues in seeking wisdom, not just knowledge.  Someone once said, “When you know and choose not to do, you choose not to know.”  Knowledge can be culturally specific.  It can limit the experience.  Wisdom comes when we live our story and get out of our head…move out of our comfort zone. Wisdom sees to the heart.  Wisdom knows.